Y YouĀ may beĀ wondering why I am talking about confidence and why I am soĀ under-dressedĀ with this style post with this simple blue denim jeans and blue faded Tommy shirt. Wellā¦ when I look at these output photos 2 weeks after the outfitĀ was photographed, I canāt help myself notice that I am wearing simple clothes. There is not much of an embellishment that is happening. Aside from the perky sunglasses, there is really none. ThereĀ must beĀ really something present which made me like the photos.
YOU DONāT NEED REASONS
And it hits me and actually, the incident made me smile quite automatically. It is CONFIDENCE. All Caps for emphasis. I mean, what is the point of dressing well or wearing the ādopestā get up? To look attractive for whoever or whatever reason. We would think āI would wear the most fashionable get up so that I would be attractiveā then and only then we would feel confident to go out and meet friends or maybe confident that my crush would notice me. Wrong. For me, it is actually the other way around.
CONFIDENCE ITSELF MAKES YOU ATTRACTIVE
Confidence itself makes you attractive. True story and not the other way around. We do find ways or reasons to make ourselves confident. I need to have a fit bodyĀ to beĀ confident. I need to have the best haircutĀ to beĀ confident. I need to have that expensive box logo Supreme shirtĀ to beĀ confident. No, all false. The more confident you are the more you are attractive. Confident in a good way.
Letās take, such as a guy named Billy. HeĀ may not beĀ the most handsome guy out there but he has something. He has confidence in himself. The way he owns the room in every situation. Billy does not get intimidated that easily and he actually and confidently communicates his thoughts and ideas well. He does that care what he wears as long as he looks decent. Billy does not even get worried of his girlfriend being flirted with some other guys because he is not petty and not a jealous type of guy. Billy is a very attractive guy because he is confident. Donāt you agree?
VALIDATION & CORE CONFIDENCE
I am not saying weĀ should beĀ confident with everything and just settle. Improving ourselvesĀ must beĀ a constant undertaking. We all wantĀ to beĀ the best version of ourselves. This isĀ personalĀ pride and is not something necessaryĀ to beĀ confident. You donāt need to tell yourself that you need these thingsĀ to beĀ confident.
What is necessary is self-validation. I mean stop needingĀ the validation ofĀ others. All you need is the validation coming from yourself. In other words, your core confidence. It is what we believe in. It is what we believe how much is our worth. It is what we believe what we deserve. It is what we believe on what we canĀ achieveĀ And lastly, it is what we believe what our mark would be in this world. I am not that confident yet, not even close to what I am saying here but I am and we all should be a work in progress about confidence.
I believe and as an ending thought, core confidence is about not how much we have achieved already in our lives. It is about what we believe is possible for ourselves. I would like Matthew H. for making me have these thoughts.
Photographed ByĀ Ken Triana
Art DirectionĀ ByĀ Lloyd Chua
Styling ByĀ Lloyd Chua
Photo Post-Processing ByĀ Lloyd Chua
~ CEBU MEN FASHION & STYLEĀ BLOGGER