Y YouÂ may beÂ wondering why I am talking about confidence and why I am soÂ under-dressedÂ with this style post with this simple blue denim jeans and blue faded Tommy shirt. WellâŠ when I look at these output photos 2 weeks after the outfitÂ was photographed, I canât help myself notice that I am wearing simple clothes. There is not much of an embellishment that is happening. Aside from the perky sunglasses, there is really none. ThereÂ must beÂ really something present which made me like the photos.
YOU DONâT NEED REASONS
And it hits me and actually, the incident made me smile quite automatically. It is CONFIDENCE. All Caps for emphasis. I mean, what is the point of dressing well or wearing the âdopestâ get up? To look attractive for whoever or whatever reason. We would think âI would wear the most fashionable get up so that I would be attractiveâ then and only then we would feel confident to go out and meet friends or maybe confident that my crush would notice me. Wrong. For me, it is actually the other way around.
CONFIDENCE ITSELF MAKES YOU ATTRACTIVE
Confidence itself makes you attractive. True story and not the other way around. We do find ways or reasons to make ourselves confident. I need to have a fit bodyÂ to beÂ confident. I need to have the best haircutÂ to beÂ confident. I need to have that expensive box logo Supreme shirtÂ to beÂ confident. No, all false. The more confident you are the more you are attractive. Confident in a good way.
Letâs take, such as a guy named Billy. HeÂ may not beÂ the most handsome guy out there but he has something. He has confidence in himself. The way he owns the room in every situation. Billy does not get intimidated that easily and he actually and confidently communicates his thoughts and ideas well. He does that care what he wears as long as he looks decent. Billy does not even get worried of his girlfriend being flirted with some other guys because he is not petty and not a jealous type of guy. Billy is a very attractive guy because he is confident. Donât you agree?
VALIDATION & CORE CONFIDENCE
I am not saying weÂ should beÂ confident with everything and just settle. Improving ourselvesÂ must beÂ a constant undertaking. We all wantÂ to beÂ the best version of ourselves. This isÂ personalÂ pride and is not something necessaryÂ to beÂ confident. You donât need to tell yourself that you need these thingsÂ to beÂ confident.
What is necessary is self-validation. I mean stop needingÂ the validation ofÂ others. All you need is the validation coming from yourself. In other words, your core confidence. It is what we believe in. It is what we believe how much is our worth. It is what we believe what we deserve. It is what we believe on what we canÂ achieveÂ And lastly, it is what we believe what our mark would be in this world. I am not that confident yet, not even close to what I am saying here but I am and we all should be a work in progress about confidence.
I believe and as an ending thought, core confidence is about not how much we have achieved already in our lives. It is about what we believe is possible for ourselves. I would like Matthew H. for making me have these thoughts.
Photographed ByÂ Ken Triana
Art DirectionÂ ByÂ Lloyd Chua
Styling ByÂ Lloyd Chua
Photo Post-Processing ByÂ Lloyd Chua
~ CEBU MEN FASHION & STYLEÂ BLOGGER